Author Archives: Michael Vladeck

What happens to you as a parent when your kid is experiencing anger, shame, sadness, or some other very uncomfortable emotional experience?  What is the impact on you, and what is your reaction?

A big part of why “it takes a village to raise a child” is because it is too easy for parents without support to get exhausted and overwhelmed.  And these days, most parents simply don’t have or don’t call in … Continue reading →

The biggest trap that most parents fall into is assuming that they understand their child’s perception of a given situation.  Whether they deduce it from certain comments their kid makes, by specific observations of their kid’s behavior, or even by projecting … Continue reading →

Sometimes we get stuck arguing over whose reality is “right,” and miss the windows to de-escalate the conflicts that arise.  We are deep beings, and as such, we always have an emotional component involved with any issue that arises and … Continue reading →

Parenting consistently involves tending to so many issues that it is easy to equate “Parenting” with “Doing” – and this is a trap.  It often gets many parents so immersed in a default mode of getting things done and meeting objectives that it skips over the … Continue reading →

Having good judgment comes mostly from experience… and many of the experiences that have taught us the most in our lives have often involved bad judgment to some degree.  This trial and error is part of our life education, and … Continue reading →

My invitation to you this week is to look at some refinements that you can potentially make in how you address critical situations with your kids, in order to be more supportive and effective as a parent. If your child … Continue reading →

Kids judge for the same reasons adults do - it gives us a sense of feeling more in control and empowered in our world.  While we may not always have the control we want, we can certainly learn to find stability and … Continue reading →

When your child shares things that they are excited, grateful, sad, or angry about, and when you find out things that your child did that frustrate you, do you focus first on getting to a certain outcome by fixing, changing, explaining … Continue reading →

How long has it taken us adults to recognize the true gifts that we were born with – supposing we actually know what they are at this time?  And, if we have recognized these beautiful gifts, how long has it … Continue reading →